‘Life is happening For You, not to you.’
In an effort to center myself and clear my head, I got on the treadmill and listened to The Mel Robbins podcast. I had no idea what the topic was, but somehow I knew it was what I needed to hear.
And as always, Mel delivered.
During her conversation with Charlamagne Tha God, I was reminded of many things that I had temporarily forgotten. One of them was that whatever life has thrown at you, it is an opportunity to learn and grow and be better.
It is happening For You.
That’s a hard one to absorb. In fact, I think when something like cancer or financial hardship or something equally horrible comes across our path, we get angry. And oftentimes we go into a victim mindset.
We think that this horrible thing is happening to us.
But what if you flip that around and ask:
What is it that I’m supposed to learn here?
What will happen if I stop pushing against this…stop resisting it and just let it be?
What new doors or life paths will open as a result?
How can this change me for the better?
I know this is not an easy thing to do. Especially when the stakes seem high. But our perception drives our experience. And how we experience things will drive how we choose to respond.
Remember: Our Power Lies in Our Response.
No one tells us how to respond to the people and circumstances in life.
We have 100% control.
And that is where our power lies.
I’ve learned that living with Gratitude is a transformative experience. When you feel beaten down, lost, stuck, or just sad, try to find gratitude in the little things.
When you do, you are intentionally shifting your focus and mindset from fear to gratitude. You are choosing to see the good.
Good is everywhere. It is truly surrounding you, always. You just have to choose to see it.
When we feel like the victim, that is an invitation for fear to settle in. And sometimes fear can feel good. It feels validating. And it oftentimes brings anger. Which also feels good when we are dealing with hardships and challenges.
So without knowing it, we are filling our heart and mind with poison.
Fear and Anger eat away at us. And the longer we hold on to them, the more they negatively affect us.
Finding gratitude is the quickest way to walk through that.
This is also a time for patience and faith. Oftentimes, things do not happen with the timing that we want. My experience is they will arrive at the perfect time. So exhale, be patient and know all will be well.
Trusting the process is faith. Knowing that this bad thing you are dealing with is just a season. It is not forever. And your decision on how you will respond and move forward is in your hands.
You have the power to choose.
And you can decide right now that this circumstance is not going to take you down.
You can decide that how you are living is going to change. You will make the necessary improvements to create a life that makes you proud. You do not have to stay in this circumstance if you choose differently. Because that new choice will create new outcomes.
You will come into your own authentic self. And you will see that this thing that is challenging you is really happening for you.
Because everything comes with a purpose.
Everything is an opportunity to do better. To make impact. To make a difference; in our own lives as well as others.
And isn’t that what we are all here for? To grow and to serve?
”Gratitude is the doorway to abundance”. ~ Deepak Chopra
When we are grateful, we are opening our hearts. We are opening the doorway for more. When we are grateful, we are blessing the circumstance. We are blessing the people in our lives.
And with that comes expansion. Abundance. And a new perception of life.
Our world is so incredible. It is miraculous. It is stunningly beautiful.
Jump in. Even if you feel it’s all against you right now. It is not. This is just life’s invitation to open the door to transformation and growth.
It is your invitation to Emerge Positive.
You can.
Positively,
deanne
