You have one relationship that affects every other part of your life… and you’re probably not giving it enough attention.
I think at this point, we really understand and value the relationships we have. Our closest friendships, our work relationships, and of course our family.
What if I told you the most important relationship you will ever have in your lifetime is the one you have with yourself?
Are you nurturing that relationship? Do you dedicate your energy and focus to yourself?
So many of us see that as selfish. Or a waste of time.
Spend time with myself?
That doesn’t seem fun…or necessary.
But the fact is, the relationship you have with yourself influences every area of your life — so it’s absolutely worth your time and attention.
But don’t just take my word for it….here’s what the research says:
Your relationship with yourself determines your mental and emotional health. Self-compassion and well-being: Dr. Kristin Neff’s research at the University of Texas–Austin shows that people who practice self-compassion (treating themselves with kindness rather than criticism) experience less anxiety and depression, higher life satisfaction, and greater resilience.
The quality of your external relationships mirrors the one you have with yourself. Research suggests that the way we treat ourselves mirrors our attachment style. People with a secure inner attachment — who trust themselves and offer self-support — form healthier, more fulfilling relationships with others.
Self-connection drives success and purpose. Harvard Business Review reported that self-aware people are more confident and make better decisions, leading to stronger professional outcomes and relationships.
A positive self-relationship benefits physical health too A 2020 study from the Journal of Behavioral Medicine found that self-compassion reduces physiological stress responses (like cortisol levels) and inflammation — both key to long-term health.
Isn’t that amazing? Working on yourself…the relationship you have with you, has all of these benefits.
And all of this shows why creating a morning routine is so important. It’s dedicated time spent on You.
I know I sound like a broken record, but it’s true!
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Add Fun to Your Relationship With You
The other point I want to impress on you is that Fun can and should be a part of this. It shouldn’t feel like a hardship to nurture an authentic relationship with yourself.
And given that Halloween is this Friday, this is a great time to let go and be a kid again.
Maybe a costume is in order? Maybe you decorate your home? Maybe you actually say Yes to the party your friends have invited you to?
This Halloween: Take Off the Social Mask
In the theme of letting go and being truly yourself, let’s all agree to let the wall down. Take off the ‘social mask’. There’s no need to pretend or to continue down a path of perfection.
A true and meaningful relationship is one built on authenticity, honesty and trust. One where we feel safe.
Surely, that must begin with you.
Whether you’ve started your morning routine, or a journal or just taking quiet time for yourself or whether you’re still waiting to begin….take this as your sign to dedicate time to You and your well-being.
It’s always time well spent.
“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we’ll ever do.” ~Brene Brown
💡 What’s one way you can show up for yourself this week — just as you are?
You Can Emerge Positive!
Positively,
Deanne
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